When using the MySQL preference pane to start and stop MySQL on my Mac, I was not quickly able to find which script was actually run. This was not configurable. Find and grep did not help me.
It seems that the prefpane goes to /usr/local/mysql/support-files/mysql.server and does a start and stop
Since I use a couple of MySQL versions, setting your symbolic link becomes really important.
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